to grow into love, or to fall into love

i read raine's blog and saw this..

"growing in love requires you to continuously find that something in that person to keep it going. whereas… when you fall in love, you just… fall. and you can’t un-fall, even though you wish you could."

how true.
after experiencing falling in love and trying to grow into love,
i'd say that falling in love is much easier (if you meet the right person).

my 1st relationship was a definite "fall in love" situation.
nothing else but him mattered at all.
i couldn't help it, i just kept falling deeper and deeper.
and as much as i'd have liked it, i couldn't un-fall.

the 2nd relationship was more of a "grow into love".
i guess it was the same for him, i don't know.
but we somehow lost track of each other along the way.
maybe it's because we no longer saw that SOMETHING we needed to continuously find in each person.

i would think that my current relationship is a fusion of both.
fell in love with each other, and we're still growing more into love.
i guess it's a good balance.
because we love each other, we don't exactly have to find that special something.
and yet, we continously discover new things about each other to love.
L.O.V.E.